The work of researchers from Brook University in New York has proven: the statute of limitations for love does not exist. Using magnetic resonance imaging, specialists examined the chemical processes in the brain in young couples and couples who have lived together for more than 20 years. And it turned out that in every tenth pair the partners have the same passionate feelings for each other as at the very beginning of the relationship, regardless of how long their marriage lasts: after 10 and 20 years, the feelings of love for their chosen one remain unchanged.
An analysis of brain activity has confirmed this. Scientists have found that in some representatives of older couples, when they see photographs of a partner, the same chemical reactions occur in the brain as in people in the early stages of falling in love. And although there is a very strong version in the scientific community that the chemical processes that determine the special state of lovers at the beginning of a relationship begin to subside after 15 months, and then completely disappear within ten years, not all, apparently, can only be explained by chemistry. True love does not subside and does not disappear.
What, according to scientists, can be the beginning of a great and strong love?
- Open communication. This is not about excessive frankness: certainly, you should not lay out all your secrets before the first comer. But a smile, ease, sincerity and friendliness always find a response, such is human nature. Normally, it takes us several weeks or even months to somehow open up even to well-known people. But if you managed to talk to someone almost immediately and talk to yourself, it means that there is already a certain spark.
- Proximity Physical proximity to the object of attention plays a very important role, and it works much more effectively than flirting at a distance. If you liked someone at a party, just go up to him and stand by his side - this is better than smiling mysteriously and shooting your eyes through the room.
- Reciprocal feeling. In psychology, there is the concept of "resonance" - a phenomenon when the object of love begins to experience the same feelings as the subject. Simply put, the more we are sure that someone likes us, the more we like this person, which inevitably leads to emotional rapprochement.
- Common interests. We instinctively look for membership in a group, including a group of interests. At the same time, members of one group seem to each other more attractive - in every sense - than strangers. This evolutionary mechanism also works when meeting people: we instinctively look for a person with whom we have a lot in common. The more similar interests there are, the more chances there are to “attract” each other.
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